15 Secrets About Marriage That Nobody Will Tell You

Marriage ceremony:

When parents feel that their son daughter gets older enough to get married they will start searching partners for them through marriage brokers, friends, family etc.  Once they get response from someone's family they will enquire about the family background, reputation and financial status. After getting knows about everything they will go to the bride or bridegroom home.

They will talk with each other and they will get acceptance from both man and woman. They will do more small traditional ceremonies, engagement and marriage. Those small ceremonies include eating in each other’s home, buying jewels and clothes for everyone etc. Once marriage is getting quicker, they will search for marriage mahal, print invitation, search food service and do decoration works. It will look like a festival. Their home will fill with real happiness and relatives. Those laughing sounds, children's play, young girl’s decoration. There are so many things to enjoy and admire in marriages. On the day of marriage early morning virtual things will get started. At the end of the ceremony the girl will be tied a rope called “Thali- Mangal Sutra”. Then it is considered that the marriage got over. After that food will be served with love. While leaving from marriage halls relatives will be given with sweets or a pack of coconuts and traditional things. Hence, it will be long festivals in everybody’s family. That is why it is given that much importance in all of our lives.

Choosing a partner

After knowing how important a marriage is, we can also understand the importance of choosing the best partner for us. It is an important responsibility. We have to learn how to choose a perfect partner. There are some criteria of selecting a partner. While choosing a partner just asks yourself that do you really like them? Because we like people when they do something favour for us or helping us or being kind with us. Apart from them just check, are you really interested with them? Then ask why you do like them? if you like them because of their beauty, remember, that will go while years pass. If you like their lifestyle or financial status that may also disappear. Ask your heart whether you like them from the depth of your heart. And like them for what they really are. It will be the best thing in choosing a partner. And also think what they will do for you .Will they give up? Will they tolerate you? Will they forgive you for your mistakes? Will they hold your hands forever. These are the main queries you should ask while thinking how much they are apt for you.

Same attitudes and beliefs:

It is important to consider their believes in God, their status about religion are important. Because clashes may occur frequently if you both are not coincide with those types of believes. And it is also considerable their attitude. How they will react when they are messed. How will they face toughest situations and failures. Once we get into relationship with them we will feel discomfort if they are not the same as they before. To avoid such possibilities it is better to think twice about their beliefs and attitudes.

Planning children:

You may ask that while just entering into relationships how can we talk about children and all. It is too quick, but it is such a main thing which leads your life to a good path. Because everybody have their individual plans about children. Some may have plan of having only one. Some may have plan to birth four or five children, since them very much love children and dreaming about them from beginning. Some people wish to adopt babies. Hence, it will create clumsy situations in a family. It will create bad impression on your partners. We have to remember that everybody have their own plans about their kids.

Considering relationships:

Not everybody treat their family and friends in the same way. One in a pair best may consider their family as everything. They will give importance to their friends and they will enjoy while they are with friends. They will love to spend time with friends and frequent outings in weekends. Whereas, some people may don't have interest in friends and all they will think friends as just supporters. They also don't spend time with family too. They just chase their goals. So it is a significant thing to analyse how your spouse is attracted with friends and family. Because when you are getting into marriage life, your friends may come to your home. So, it is important that how your partner treat your friends. If you think about it before itself, you can avoid misunderstanding between you.

Monetary status:

Obviously, love will not come by considering financial status but it has to be taken into account. Because your partner may have inferiority or superiority complex over you at any situation. You may argue about your financial status. It is also considerable about financial status before marriage. Keep in mind, financial status is an important criteria to run your marriage life smoothly. Some people are also happy without having proper financial status, own house and properties. It is all about their understanding and love. If it is there, then finance is not a problem. Possessiveness plays a vital role in an healthy relationship. Most of the people get separated just because they hate possessiveness  or they don't get possessiveness from their partners. Sometimes possessiveness seems to be a suspicion while you are talking with your opposite gender friends. Your partner may get jealous. They behave rude with you. They call it as possessiveness. But it is not that. Jealous is different. It comes because of their inferiority complex. Whereas possessiveness is that a person should posses you. It is a common thought, like you should possess help from only her or him. You should take them to hospitals. You should take care of them. You should posses their time and moments. You should be the part of their life moments. This is what possessiveness. People will not let someone to occupy their place. Sometimes it creates bad impression to your partner on you. They may think you lose belief in them and you suspect their character. If they start thinking like that your relationship will be ruined soon. Hence possessiveness has power to break your life into pieces. It makes you depressed. It triggers you to hate your beloved partner. It disturbs you while you are doing your routine works. It is an avoidable thing. As well if people are not possessive their spouse will think they don't have love on them that is why they are not possessive on them. So not being possessive also makes them think that person does not have pure love on them. Therefore possessiveness can judge your partner love.

Biological impacts:

Make sure that you are not just biologically getting attracted towards that person. Because sexual attraction will not last. Once sexual expectation gets over people start getting bored and they will hate you for very silly reasons too. This is important to analyse and keep in mind whether a person is just sexually attracted towards you.

Commenting on appearance:

Before selecting your partner make sure how they treat you. They may tease you for fun. But their depth of thoughts on your appearance. You may be stout, slim, tall, black, short etc. But remember how your partner treats you with your qualities. They can see that they tease you just for fun but it becomes the main reasons to get separated from a  relationship. If you don't want that person talking about your appearance just clarify that you are not interested with that.

Equal respect:

Determine whether your partner treats you equally at all time. You may be a girl or a boy.  Sometimes your partner misses to keep your dignity everywhere. Check whether you are given respect at their every activity in front of others too. Self - respect  can change love too. It may make you to break your relationship if you are not treated with self respect.

Ego:

Ego is a bad anti hero in every relationship. Not only in love but also in a friendly, brotherhood relationship too. It is much important that you both have a very low level of ego. If one of them have ego then someone has to give up for them. If it is not then your relationship will not last for sure. If you get fight between you just watch who comes forward to get compromised. Realise that who wants to keep relationship than their ego. Is that relationship saving person you?  Then think whether your spouse will be the same and it will be you who every time has to lose your self respect. But if your spouse cares about relationship and you are filled with ego, then change yourself to worth your partners love. Yes! ego may ruin your beautiful relationship.