5 Secrets You Will Not Want To Know About Relationship

Relationships are different in their qualities. For example a mother is different from a sister, from a brother and also from a long distance relationship. But a husband or wife is totally different from all; even it may be a blood relationship. You know people give more importance to their spouses.

Everybody dreams for the best partner:

Since, we all know marriage is inevitable in our life we are committed with our marriage dreams. Once we came to know what marriage is, we start dreaming about our partners. Not only marriage but also about our partners. We think about whenever we attend a marriage function or watching marriage scenes in movies. We would have dreamt more than thousand times about our marriage. The same way we get inspired from the heroes and heroines that our husband or wife should be like them. Like their beauty, attitude, smartness etc. Marriage is a beautiful dream for us but how many of us make that beautiful dream into a real? Only few of us. It is a sad thing and also a fact.

Love:

What is love? It is still an undefined word. There are so many definitions, virtual believes, business and madness rounds over it. What exactly love is? It is a feel as science says, "It is like hungry, angry and cry. Nothing much." But it plays a vital role in everybody is life.

"Love is like a poem but the matter is, we are not good poets to describe it".

Love is like a knife it cuts a cake and also a head. It is about who holds that knife. Everybody is crazy about love. People dream about love than marriage. They also think marriage is too far. When we get older enough we will get married. But love happens when we enter into teenage it starts at very earlier. Everybody have love at least once in lifetime. No one can object this. The very first love can happen at any age. We cannot pretend that it will happen only when we are in teenage or before.

Puppy Love:

Puppy love happens at very beginning. When we enter into school life, even before teenage, we get puppy love. We may or may not remember our puppy loves. But it happens to most of us.

First love:

First love also happens at the middle stage of school. Our craziness on it gets hyper. First love is powerful. It has efficiency to rule you. It can distract you from your studies, goals and responsibilities. People are there who follow their loves first love, achieve their ambitions and also that very first love even after many years. But they are few. Very few. Rather than approaching love scientifically, some people approach it mentally. If they don't get that loves they lose their future they get addicted to drugs. We may see many stories like that in our life. It may be our friends, family members neighbours or even us yes some of us are directly affected with first love and we may have that scar on our heart still. People mostly hide their first love. They don't have enough courage to express. They scare whether that person will accept their love or will avoid them.  Hence first love is a beautiful and also a stressful thing in all of our life.

Crush:

People change their unachievable love as crush. "Crush" as it is named, it crushes people heart whenever they see that person. They madly fall for them. They admire their each moment. They Secretly love them but name it as crush because they know they can't get them. Sometimes people have crushes on their teachers, cine actors, and elders. Even after they are in relationships they still have crush. It is a high level of admiration.

Adult Love:

Adult love is what exactly love is. People are matured enough to choose their lover. It is not like puppy love, crush or first love. But it is a matured analysis that we are in perfectly loving them.  We start believe that our selection is good. Our mind, life and heart beats gets committed with that love. Scientifically we are mature enough to choose our partners in that stage. We analyse whether they are fit for us. We also have enough strength to quit that love and move on if it is not suitable for us. Adult love is the one which give entire rights to us to select  that perfect partner who will come to end of our role. Adult love is accepted without giving any importance to our feelings, just feelings but a strong decision about our life.

No love:

People are brought up with the thoughts that love is a crime. It may be due to their family restrictions or their fear on love with real life tragedies. They believe in love with comes only after marriage. This kind of people doesn’t want take risks in their own life in love.  And also they are scare to take that love to their family. This is the biggest reason for people those who don't love at all. There are some other reasons too. People who are really busy, don't find time to fall in love and all. They fall for their own goals, lifestyles and responsibilities. People with no love are not always meant by scared for love. They also have hate towards love. They may have seen bad experience of love with their friends or loved one's life. They also may have seen tears and bad impacts of love on someone's life. Hence they don't want to try that in their own life. Some people are really interested to love but they don't find someone who is apt for them. And they hesitate to believe people to love .These are the  major causes for people who don't love.

Marriage:

Marriage is a grand cultural festival in our country. It is an important event in everybody's life. It gives excitement to everybody in a family. Not only the bride or bridegroom, their parents their siblings, relatives almost all get eager in someone's marriage. Because it is a great celebration. A get together of all members in their family and relatives. We can see people those who we have never seen in our life time in such marriages. They may be our relatives. Marriage drags everybody together at a place. Lots of joys, funs and happiness will decorate their home. So, marriages are treated as big festival in our culture. Everybody is excited to meet that even once in their life. It is a commitment that both people should travel throughout their life without any crack. They should get each other. They should give up for one another. They should fulfil their life with pure love. Their generation should breed. Their relationship should last till their skin gets shrunken, hands gets shivered and vision gets faded. It is an unwritten agreement. They must face every success and failures together. There are so many responsibilities are tied with marriage ceremony. After marriage there are so many traditional ceremonies are to be done.

Love marriage:

As discussed about various stages of love, people approach their family for marriage. Parents normally don't accept love marriage. It is for three big reasons:

 Number one: They can't accept their children to take their own decisions and disrespecting them. They feel like cheated. Number two: They get scared that whether the person will fulfil their son or daughter's life? Will they suite their character ? will they respect their family and traditions? Are they affected with any other diseases? Addicted to any bad habits? Will the relationship last forever? Will they adjust with our family? Our financial status? Are they capable to take our children forever with happiness?  These kinds of queries will make parents hesitate to accept love marriage.

Third reason is all about society. What they will think? Won't they think that I don't know how to grow my children properly? How will I see them in future? How can I go out? How can I answer for their queries? There are lots of questions which damage our prestigious status of our family. These are the main reasons why parents oppose love marriage. They afraid rather than oppose.

Advantages of love marriage:

When marriage is for a long lasting relationship with mutual understanding, then love marriage is apt able for that. People love each other, they understand each other. They know one another's likes and dislikes. They also know how to make them happy when they are upset. how to play with them with craziness. Sometimes friends love each other. In such cases their life will be more pleasant. They have very much understanding between them in their life. Then their life will be smooth. In love marriage, people have freedom to choose their partners. They will know each other. if they find that person is not worth enough or they don't fit for their character, they can break up with them at any time. But in arranged marriages people are forced to live with an unwanted person. Love marriage gives a satisfaction that they choose their life of their own  and they think they rule their own life. Love Marriage gives an excitement  that we are going to live our life with that person whom we want exactly till the edge of the doom. "Love makes life beautiful". It gives happiness to the couple they will live life without any force. They will feel different experience. They value their marriage because they faced worst moments to get each other. So they will live with love forever.

Disadvantages of love marriages:

When we go for love marriage, we may break our bonds with family. It gives mind full of stresses. It is and all basic issues. But once we get married in love marriage all the responsibilities would be with us. Even if we have a small fights and arguments we will blame each other like, " I faced risk to marry I would have obeyed my parents words", is a very common phrase for ending love marriages. They will find ego in them. their parents may leave them. sometimes the relationship with your family would break forever. In that case they will face difficulties in their each steps of life. They long for relatives their home will be empty, if their parents are against their marriage their children will miss grandparents and relatives love. They will easily get angry for small arguments too. They will feel, "I left my family and came for this person but they don't respect my feelings". they will miss elder’s guidance. They also miss their family.

Draw backs in love:

When people fall in love the fall into these categories:

1. one side love

2.love failure

This cracks their love life like anything.

One side love: 
People fall in love with somebody but they don't have courage to express that. So they will lose their concentration in everything. They can't study work and can't live normal life. They will get addicted to drugs. They may think what if she or he is reuses their love and avoid them forever. This is what the reason why people don't Express their love towards that person. Hence they get stressed and also mentally affected. It is a very big pain.

Love failure:

There is a painful category, in which people get break up with their love due to many reasons. It may be due to their character, small fights or not having guts to take their love to next stage. There are lot of reasons to get separated in love. But life after love failure is the worst part of life that one can have. They will literally die. Memories will not leave them to be alive, wherever they go they will get memory of that person. people will lose life after love failure. They even commit suicide. Love is that much a dangerous knife sometimes kills the one who is holding itself. People don't want to fall in love afraidof those pains and stresses. They want peaceful life with wonderful life partner.